Parents need to develop strong wills. It's not an option. Many Strong-willed kids have weak-willed parents, allowing the children to become more selfish and demanding. Unmotivated children also need strong-willed parents to challenge them to succeed. Kids need parents who are willing to take a stand for what's right, demonstrate leadership, and set firm limits. They need moms and dads who will show them the path and encourage them to stay on it.
Unfortunately, some parents translate this mandate into a justification to rain anger down on their kids. Children need firmness, but don't think firmness is the same as harshness. Many parents confuse the two, but harshness damages relationships. Firmness sets down a boundary and lets children know that if it's crossed, a consequence will follow. Firmness holds a child accountable to take the next steps. Don't use your anger to overpower a strong will or to put a fire under an unmotivated child. It may work for a while, but in the end you'll lose closeness.
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