This is the last devotional for kids about offense, and this is possible the hardest to talk about. Kids today are bombarded with issues ranging from divorce to parents working more, to pressures to achieve. Today's kids spend 23 hours less per week with their dad than kids did 20 years ago. 23 HOURS. Most of that is a result of divorce, long working hours, and more evening activities. Kids are getting a negative view of their family because of this. Kids are dealing with offense in their very own family.
There was a boy in the bible who had every reason to carry offenses of his family but chose instead to forgive his family and look after them. Read about this story with your kids. It starts in Genesis chapter 38. This is a rather long story so just read bits and pieces. Ask them what they would have thought about their family if they would have done that. Continue reading in chapter 41 when Joseph becomes ruler of Egypt. He overcame all kinds of challenges and could have chosen to be offended and bitter but Joseph did not. Keep reading through chapter 44 and 45. There is a huge famine in the land and Joseph's family came for help. What would you have done if the people who did all kinds of evil things to you where at the mercy of you. What if you could do anything you wanted to them. What would you do? Joseph later in the story revealed himself to them and forgave them.
Are there family members in your life who you need to forgive for something that they did to you. Think about it. What family offenses are you carrying in your life?
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Grand Theft Auto IV
Normally, I would not even give a game like Grand Theft Auto IV the time of day, blog-wise, however, this matter warrants a post. Grand Theft Auto IV, for the Playstation 3 and XBox 360, received the first 10 out of 10 in nearly a decade.
Millions of human beings are eventually going to have a copy of Grand Theft Auto IV in their households due to the series' popularity as well as its critical praise. This is most unfortunate. Why is it unfortunate? I shall not deny that the 10/10 score is possibly deserved for technical achievements such as graphics, sound, gameplay mechanics, etc. However, we, as a society have become so desensitized to the differences between right and wrong that we are willing to give a 10/10 praise to a game that flat out glorifies deep sin. This 10/10 score reinforces the incorrect popular message that things such as murder, sex outside of marriage, profanity, drunkenness, homosexuality, drug abuse, etc, are perfectly fine and good entertainment. Incorrect. Those things are wrong, always have been wrong and always will always be wrong. Sin is sin. The LORD does not change.
The fact that a game such as Grand Theft Auto IV is regarded as "masterful" is a clear indication that our society has become more rotten than a worm-infested apple core. While multitudes of homes are about to be the dwelling places of this wretched, sin-glorifying title, what ought to be the case instead is these same people being set free from sin (as we have all committed sin) instead of being fed something that tries to encourage, glorify and legitimize sin. Mind you, Grand Theft Auto IV is not the only guilty party; it is but a mere example. Numerous other video games, movies, musical recordings, etc, are in this same category. This situation is clearly disheartening though not surprising considering the ungodly times we live in.
We must be reminded of what the Word of God says here:
"But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them." 2 Timothy 3: 1-5
If you are a Christian, please do not, I repeat, DO NOT buy/play Grand Theft Auto IV or any game like it. It is NOT God's will for you to partake of this game; I assure you. The following is a saddening truth, but there are kids and adults out there, who consider themselves to be Christians, and are still planning to buy this game. This game has nothing worthwhile for you and it completely stands for everything against what your life represents. As a Christian, your life and your kids life represents the LORD.
Millions of human beings are eventually going to have a copy of Grand Theft Auto IV in their households due to the series' popularity as well as its critical praise. This is most unfortunate. Why is it unfortunate? I shall not deny that the 10/10 score is possibly deserved for technical achievements such as graphics, sound, gameplay mechanics, etc. However, we, as a society have become so desensitized to the differences between right and wrong that we are willing to give a 10/10 praise to a game that flat out glorifies deep sin. This 10/10 score reinforces the incorrect popular message that things such as murder, sex outside of marriage, profanity, drunkenness, homosexuality, drug abuse, etc, are perfectly fine and good entertainment. Incorrect. Those things are wrong, always have been wrong and always will always be wrong. Sin is sin. The LORD does not change.
The fact that a game such as Grand Theft Auto IV is regarded as "masterful" is a clear indication that our society has become more rotten than a worm-infested apple core. While multitudes of homes are about to be the dwelling places of this wretched, sin-glorifying title, what ought to be the case instead is these same people being set free from sin (as we have all committed sin) instead of being fed something that tries to encourage, glorify and legitimize sin. Mind you, Grand Theft Auto IV is not the only guilty party; it is but a mere example. Numerous other video games, movies, musical recordings, etc, are in this same category. This situation is clearly disheartening though not surprising considering the ungodly times we live in.
We must be reminded of what the Word of God says here:
"But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them." 2 Timothy 3: 1-5
If you are a Christian, please do not, I repeat, DO NOT buy/play Grand Theft Auto IV or any game like it. It is NOT God's will for you to partake of this game; I assure you. The following is a saddening truth, but there are kids and adults out there, who consider themselves to be Christians, and are still planning to buy this game. This game has nothing worthwhile for you and it completely stands for everything against what your life represents. As a Christian, your life and your kids life represents the LORD.
The Bait of Satan devotional for kids part 2
I hate this class! I hate school! My teacher hates me! These are comments that regularly come out of kids mouths. Pastor talked on Sunday about the levels. The lowest level is the world. The second level is friends. The third level is the believer. The forth level is family and spouse. The highest level of expectation is the Pastor. In the school world I would throw in the teacher to the highest level of expectation.
Kids hold their teachers in such high expectation that teachers and those in authority often are ones that children view as have offended them. The second level of offense in a child's life is being offended by those in authority. Sometimes children will even carry their parents offense for someone. Children will hear their parents talking about someone in a negative light and the children will carry those same feelings for that person.
Read with your child Romans 13. Ask them who is in authority in their lives. Talk to them about people in your life who where in authority that you didn't treat like you should have. Talk to them about ways that they can love those in authority.
Kids hold their teachers in such high expectation that teachers and those in authority often are ones that children view as have offended them. The second level of offense in a child's life is being offended by those in authority. Sometimes children will even carry their parents offense for someone. Children will hear their parents talking about someone in a negative light and the children will carry those same feelings for that person.
Read with your child Romans 13. Ask them who is in authority in their lives. Talk to them about people in your life who where in authority that you didn't treat like you should have. Talk to them about ways that they can love those in authority.
Monday, April 28, 2008
The Bait of Satan Devotional with Kids Part 1
Yesterday Pastor Jeff preached in our family service about offenses. Pastor preached mostly about when Christians offend one another. He listed nine fruits that result from taking the bait of offense. They are Hurt- Anger- Outrage- Jealousy- Resentment- Strife- Bitterness- Hatred- Envy.
Are any of these in your life or the life of your kids. All to often I hear a child say that they hate someone, or they are so angry about something. I wonder how many of those are because those people "offended" them. In a child's life I believe there are three types of people who may have caused them to take the bait of Satan.
The first type of person is a friend. Kids are pressured every day with peer pressure. They want to fit in. They want to have that best friend or a group of friends that they are close with. Has your child ever been had a friend offend them?
In Matthew 26: 31-35 and 69-75 we read the story of Peter's denial of Jesus. Peter was arguable one of the closest disciples to Jesus. Read this story with your kids. Talk about the choice that Peter made. Ask why they think Peter did what he did. Ask if they have ever had a friend turn their back on them in their moment of need. Ask them how they felt. Ask them how they think Jesus felt when Peter did this. Ask them what they would have done in this situation.
Read John 21. Talk about how Jesus forgave Peter and how Peter would be the leader of the church. Pray with your children that they will forgive their friends when they are offended by their friends. Pray that they would forgive even when their friends don't even know what they did.
Are any of these in your life or the life of your kids. All to often I hear a child say that they hate someone, or they are so angry about something. I wonder how many of those are because those people "offended" them. In a child's life I believe there are three types of people who may have caused them to take the bait of Satan.
The first type of person is a friend. Kids are pressured every day with peer pressure. They want to fit in. They want to have that best friend or a group of friends that they are close with. Has your child ever been had a friend offend them?
In Matthew 26: 31-35 and 69-75 we read the story of Peter's denial of Jesus. Peter was arguable one of the closest disciples to Jesus. Read this story with your kids. Talk about the choice that Peter made. Ask why they think Peter did what he did. Ask if they have ever had a friend turn their back on them in their moment of need. Ask them how they felt. Ask them how they think Jesus felt when Peter did this. Ask them what they would have done in this situation.
Read John 21. Talk about how Jesus forgave Peter and how Peter would be the leader of the church. Pray with your children that they will forgive their friends when they are offended by their friends. Pray that they would forgive even when their friends don't even know what they did.
Thursday, April 24, 2008
Beyond the Pink and Blue
The Following is a great article I read from Carmen Kamrath
The Pink
Sugar and spice, and all that's nice; And that's what little girls are made of.
Today's girls will argue that they are more than sugar and spice -- much more. More girls today are treading new territories that were once thought to be extreme for girls, such as playing organized athletics or becoming astronauts. Today's girls are more confident and outgoing than in previous generations.
The pressures have escalated for today's young female population. Girls are bombarded with sexual images in the world of entertainment. And with girls maturing physically at an earlier age, sometimes as young as 7, these sexual messages are confusing. Girls are looking for a place to belong where they can feel special without the pressure of outward appearances or popularity. Girls need to know that Jesus loves them unconditionally.
What Girls Want
Girls want beauty and glamour. Some girls may try out the entire makeup case, while others are content with just the lip gloss. Girls want to be noticed, and thankfully, today's glamour can be found in non-traditional venues like the women's World Cup soccer team.
Unfortunately, secular society has taken advantage of this area, and girls are often drawn to wear clothes like their favorite pop music stars -- clothing that's often too mature. They're under great pressure to act and look older than they are. They watch television and movies where sexual content is the status quo, and they're at risk of growing into their teen years thinking this kind of behavior is to be expected rather than rejected.
Accessorize inner beauty. Teach girls that true beauty comes from within. Show them their inner beauty qualities and how to take care of their changing bodies. Teach them that God loves them for who they are and that he looks at their hearts for their inner beauty.
Point out good role models who exemplify this kind of beauty, such as World Cup soccer champion Michelle Akers or the girls from the Christian teen music group Jump 5. Compliment and assure girls when they display their inward beauty.
Girls want to shine. Like boys, girls also want to succeed and be the best at something. Girls are succeeding in areas that've traditionally been set aside for boys to excel in, such as math, science, and sports.
There's more pressure for girls to be successful. The pressure to succeed can develop a perfectionist attitude that can make girls susceptible to dangerous practices such as eating disorders or promiscuous behavior. Our culture tells girls that they can do anything, but sometimes this translates into the notion that they can do it all. Girls often feel pressure to be the best in many areas at the expense of precious downtime.
Help girls focus. Assure girls that they can excel, but caution them that they don't need to do it all. Provide opportunities for girls to be successful through games that help them master tasks. Lead girls in serving the community where success is measured by someone else's gain. Discuss girls' personal pressures and can steer them toward making positive decisions.
Girls want to nurture. This is how girls are biologically wired; the nature to nurture kicks in. Whether it's caring for a doll in the housekeeping center or doting on a friend who's crying over the latest crisis, girls want to care for and fix what's broken. Even at a young age, girls instinctively know the significance of what it means to bond with something or someone they care about.
Nurture their nature. Give girls opportunities to care for others by having them feed a classroom fish or go on a monthly outing to a local nursing home. Teach girls about the art of caring for others, and commend them in their efforts to help fix problems.
Teach about mothers in the Bible and the roles they played in history.
Girls want intimacy. Michael Gurian in his book The Wonder of Girls says, "The hidden yearning in every girl's and woman's life [is] to live in a safe web of intimate relationships." Girls need to feel close to friends, family, teachers, or mentors. Some desire physical intimacy by craving hugs, while others long for deep, meaningful conversation. Girls thrive in a community, a group of girls with common interests and goals.
Danger looms for girls when they don't receive the intimacy they need, because they begin to look for it in inappropriate peer groups or relationships. And broken friendships can leave lasting scars of rejection and mistrust when girls cast individuals out of friend groups.
Teach girls about experiencing an intimate relationship with God through prayer, worship, and Bible study.
Girls want to be loved. Just as girls want intimacy, girls also desire to love and be loved. Girls typically express their love more freely than boys, either in words or actions.
For a girl, a loving relationship with her father or significant male adult is crucial as she grows up. Girls will base future relationships with the opposite sex on the relationships they experience with their dads. Girls are very observant and need guidance from positive role models to show them the true meaning and expression of love.
Make matches for girls. Provide positive male role models whom girls can trust and relate to. Model how to give and receive love as you love girls unconditionally. Teach girls that true love isn't what's often portrayed on television and in today's music. Dr. David Wall, director of psychological services for Remuda Ranch Programs for Anorexia and Bulimia in Wickenburg, Arizona, says, "Loving them with a passion is not an iron clad guarantee...But a loved daughter -- one who sees the love, feels the love, hears the love, and experiences the love -- will not quickly succumb to the illusions of the world."
Tell girls the amazing love stories of the Bible and about the love relationship that God intended between a man and woman. Most importantly, help girls know that the most intimate and loving relationship they'll ever experience is the one they can have with God.
The Blue
Snaps and snails, and puppy-dogs' tails; And that's what little boys are made of.
The age-old cliché says that "boys will be boys," but what exactly does that mean in today's society? What does it mean to be a boy today? With a deluge of new books regarding raising boys, it seems that many people are trying to find the answer to that question.
The world has changed for boys. Our culture has gone from using an iron hand to groom boys into responsible men to helping young men find their sensitive sides. Our culture values boys and girls as our hope for the future, but that value can stress out boys with its seemingly unreachable expectations.
What Boys Want
Boys want to build and conquer. Watch boys as they play video games. Their mission: To conquer and beat the level they're playing. They're relentless as they play for hours on end, and they search books and Web sites for strategies to help them conquer the game. They'll do anything to win.
Boys want to know they have what it takes to one day be men. John Eldredge, in his book Wild at Heart, writes, "It's not a question -- it's the question, the one every boy and man is longing to ask. Do I have what it takes? Am I powerful? Until a man knows he's a man he will forever be trying to prove he is one, while at the same time shrink from anything that might reveal he is not."
Meet boys' conquering need. Help boys build, succeed, and master by offering opportunities to accomplish important tasks. Have boys paint an elderly church member's home. Play games that encourage teamwork or allow boys to beat their own scores. Teach them about people in the Bible who succeeded, such as Joshua or David. Talk about the successes of Christian role models, such as the St. Louis Rams' Aeneas Williams or dc Talk's Michael Tait. Celebrate boys' successes, whether boys make the school basketball team or bring a math grade from a C up to a B.
Boys want to be brave. I recently observed a group of preschool boys pretending to be firefighters. A cat sat at the top of the slide, and they rushed up the ladder as the imaginary flames were about to close in on the defenseless animal. One little boy scooped the cat into his arms and slid down the slide to safety -- a self-proclaimed hero.
Bolster boys' courage. Teach boys how to stand strong in their faith. Discuss issues of good versus evil and how boys can be on the good side. Give boys opportunities to solve problems by using biblical truths to conquer tough life situations.
In their attempts at bravery, though, boys feel a great deal of responsibility and stress, even at a young age. Pressure to get good grades, to excel in athletics or music, and to behave appropriately are all part of life for boys. So provide opportunities for boys to let off steam in a pressure-free environment; this means providing an activity just for boys, such as tackling a ropes course or playing a game of laser tag. Talk with boys about the struggles they face. Let them know that bravery includes putting their trust in God.
Boys want the "gross-factor." Face it -- nothing brings a bigger smile to a boy's face than a supersonic burp or the opportunity to play in the mud. Today's media and toy manufacturers have discovered that marketing gross products is a quick way to the young male consumer's pocketbook. Candy makers serve up gummy snot and earwax candy to eager boys who have pockets full of cash to spend on these yucky items.
Gross 'em out. Teach Bible truths using slime, messy science experiments, or stories like the bug problem during the plagues. Let preschool boys play with shaving cream or finger paint. Remember sometimes just having fun, laughing, and being silly can minister to the boy.
Boys want adventure. And they want someone to share the adventure with. Boys need to feel part of a clan, even if the clan includes only one other boy. The adventure may be as simple as a night in a tree fort or as complex as installing a new engine in a go-cart. Boys appreciate knowing the rules of the adventure they're embarking on and want the opportunity to venture as far as they can without violating the boundaries.
Through their adventures, boys need to have the opportunity to lead and follow. They need assurance that when one adventure ends, another one is just around the corner. Boys need to feel challenged and know that they're up to the task that awaits them.
Be their adventure guide. It's important that boys understand that the Christian life is the greatest adventure. Instead of stifling the boisterous enthusiasm of a boy on an adventure, give him the chance to talk about it. Boys need to share their stories. Use scavenger hunts, dramas, or movie clips to reveal adventures in the Bible. Let boys work together in groups, but provide guidance so they know their boundaries. Boys enjoy challenges, so stretch them with opportunities. Take preteen boys backpacking in the wilderness or to rock-climbing gyms.
Boys want to be loved. In his book Real Boys, William Pollack, Ph.D., says, "The fact is that boys experience deep subliminal yearnings for connection -- a hidden yearning for relationship -- that makes them long to be close to parents, teachers, coaches, friends, and family. Boys are full of love and empathy for others and long to stay 'attached' to their parents and closest mentors."
Boys need people they can trust and depend on. Boys desire relationships with adult role models who can show them the ropes and who can speak openly with them about their triumphs and concerns.
Connect with boys. Provide positive male role models for boys through trusted adults who can give boys guidance and validation. Most importantly, let boys know they can experience a radical, unconditional love through Christ. Your passion to follow Christ will speak volumes to the boys who you want to grow in loving relationships with God.
The Pink
Sugar and spice, and all that's nice; And that's what little girls are made of.
Today's girls will argue that they are more than sugar and spice -- much more. More girls today are treading new territories that were once thought to be extreme for girls, such as playing organized athletics or becoming astronauts. Today's girls are more confident and outgoing than in previous generations.
The pressures have escalated for today's young female population. Girls are bombarded with sexual images in the world of entertainment. And with girls maturing physically at an earlier age, sometimes as young as 7, these sexual messages are confusing. Girls are looking for a place to belong where they can feel special without the pressure of outward appearances or popularity. Girls need to know that Jesus loves them unconditionally.
What Girls Want
Girls want beauty and glamour. Some girls may try out the entire makeup case, while others are content with just the lip gloss. Girls want to be noticed, and thankfully, today's glamour can be found in non-traditional venues like the women's World Cup soccer team.
Unfortunately, secular society has taken advantage of this area, and girls are often drawn to wear clothes like their favorite pop music stars -- clothing that's often too mature. They're under great pressure to act and look older than they are. They watch television and movies where sexual content is the status quo, and they're at risk of growing into their teen years thinking this kind of behavior is to be expected rather than rejected.
Accessorize inner beauty. Teach girls that true beauty comes from within. Show them their inner beauty qualities and how to take care of their changing bodies. Teach them that God loves them for who they are and that he looks at their hearts for their inner beauty.
Point out good role models who exemplify this kind of beauty, such as World Cup soccer champion Michelle Akers or the girls from the Christian teen music group Jump 5. Compliment and assure girls when they display their inward beauty.
Girls want to shine. Like boys, girls also want to succeed and be the best at something. Girls are succeeding in areas that've traditionally been set aside for boys to excel in, such as math, science, and sports.
There's more pressure for girls to be successful. The pressure to succeed can develop a perfectionist attitude that can make girls susceptible to dangerous practices such as eating disorders or promiscuous behavior. Our culture tells girls that they can do anything, but sometimes this translates into the notion that they can do it all. Girls often feel pressure to be the best in many areas at the expense of precious downtime.
Help girls focus. Assure girls that they can excel, but caution them that they don't need to do it all. Provide opportunities for girls to be successful through games that help them master tasks. Lead girls in serving the community where success is measured by someone else's gain. Discuss girls' personal pressures and can steer them toward making positive decisions.
Girls want to nurture. This is how girls are biologically wired; the nature to nurture kicks in. Whether it's caring for a doll in the housekeeping center or doting on a friend who's crying over the latest crisis, girls want to care for and fix what's broken. Even at a young age, girls instinctively know the significance of what it means to bond with something or someone they care about.
Nurture their nature. Give girls opportunities to care for others by having them feed a classroom fish or go on a monthly outing to a local nursing home. Teach girls about the art of caring for others, and commend them in their efforts to help fix problems.
Teach about mothers in the Bible and the roles they played in history.
Girls want intimacy. Michael Gurian in his book The Wonder of Girls says, "The hidden yearning in every girl's and woman's life [is] to live in a safe web of intimate relationships." Girls need to feel close to friends, family, teachers, or mentors. Some desire physical intimacy by craving hugs, while others long for deep, meaningful conversation. Girls thrive in a community, a group of girls with common interests and goals.
Danger looms for girls when they don't receive the intimacy they need, because they begin to look for it in inappropriate peer groups or relationships. And broken friendships can leave lasting scars of rejection and mistrust when girls cast individuals out of friend groups.
Teach girls about experiencing an intimate relationship with God through prayer, worship, and Bible study.
Girls want to be loved. Just as girls want intimacy, girls also desire to love and be loved. Girls typically express their love more freely than boys, either in words or actions.
For a girl, a loving relationship with her father or significant male adult is crucial as she grows up. Girls will base future relationships with the opposite sex on the relationships they experience with their dads. Girls are very observant and need guidance from positive role models to show them the true meaning and expression of love.
Make matches for girls. Provide positive male role models whom girls can trust and relate to. Model how to give and receive love as you love girls unconditionally. Teach girls that true love isn't what's often portrayed on television and in today's music. Dr. David Wall, director of psychological services for Remuda Ranch Programs for Anorexia and Bulimia in Wickenburg, Arizona, says, "Loving them with a passion is not an iron clad guarantee...But a loved daughter -- one who sees the love, feels the love, hears the love, and experiences the love -- will not quickly succumb to the illusions of the world."
Tell girls the amazing love stories of the Bible and about the love relationship that God intended between a man and woman. Most importantly, help girls know that the most intimate and loving relationship they'll ever experience is the one they can have with God.
The Blue
Snaps and snails, and puppy-dogs' tails; And that's what little boys are made of.
The age-old cliché says that "boys will be boys," but what exactly does that mean in today's society? What does it mean to be a boy today? With a deluge of new books regarding raising boys, it seems that many people are trying to find the answer to that question.
The world has changed for boys. Our culture has gone from using an iron hand to groom boys into responsible men to helping young men find their sensitive sides. Our culture values boys and girls as our hope for the future, but that value can stress out boys with its seemingly unreachable expectations.
What Boys Want
Boys want to build and conquer. Watch boys as they play video games. Their mission: To conquer and beat the level they're playing. They're relentless as they play for hours on end, and they search books and Web sites for strategies to help them conquer the game. They'll do anything to win.
Boys want to know they have what it takes to one day be men. John Eldredge, in his book Wild at Heart, writes, "It's not a question -- it's the question, the one every boy and man is longing to ask. Do I have what it takes? Am I powerful? Until a man knows he's a man he will forever be trying to prove he is one, while at the same time shrink from anything that might reveal he is not."
Meet boys' conquering need. Help boys build, succeed, and master by offering opportunities to accomplish important tasks. Have boys paint an elderly church member's home. Play games that encourage teamwork or allow boys to beat their own scores. Teach them about people in the Bible who succeeded, such as Joshua or David. Talk about the successes of Christian role models, such as the St. Louis Rams' Aeneas Williams or dc Talk's Michael Tait. Celebrate boys' successes, whether boys make the school basketball team or bring a math grade from a C up to a B.
Boys want to be brave. I recently observed a group of preschool boys pretending to be firefighters. A cat sat at the top of the slide, and they rushed up the ladder as the imaginary flames were about to close in on the defenseless animal. One little boy scooped the cat into his arms and slid down the slide to safety -- a self-proclaimed hero.
Bolster boys' courage. Teach boys how to stand strong in their faith. Discuss issues of good versus evil and how boys can be on the good side. Give boys opportunities to solve problems by using biblical truths to conquer tough life situations.
In their attempts at bravery, though, boys feel a great deal of responsibility and stress, even at a young age. Pressure to get good grades, to excel in athletics or music, and to behave appropriately are all part of life for boys. So provide opportunities for boys to let off steam in a pressure-free environment; this means providing an activity just for boys, such as tackling a ropes course or playing a game of laser tag. Talk with boys about the struggles they face. Let them know that bravery includes putting their trust in God.
Boys want the "gross-factor." Face it -- nothing brings a bigger smile to a boy's face than a supersonic burp or the opportunity to play in the mud. Today's media and toy manufacturers have discovered that marketing gross products is a quick way to the young male consumer's pocketbook. Candy makers serve up gummy snot and earwax candy to eager boys who have pockets full of cash to spend on these yucky items.
Gross 'em out. Teach Bible truths using slime, messy science experiments, or stories like the bug problem during the plagues. Let preschool boys play with shaving cream or finger paint. Remember sometimes just having fun, laughing, and being silly can minister to the boy.
Boys want adventure. And they want someone to share the adventure with. Boys need to feel part of a clan, even if the clan includes only one other boy. The adventure may be as simple as a night in a tree fort or as complex as installing a new engine in a go-cart. Boys appreciate knowing the rules of the adventure they're embarking on and want the opportunity to venture as far as they can without violating the boundaries.
Through their adventures, boys need to have the opportunity to lead and follow. They need assurance that when one adventure ends, another one is just around the corner. Boys need to feel challenged and know that they're up to the task that awaits them.
Be their adventure guide. It's important that boys understand that the Christian life is the greatest adventure. Instead of stifling the boisterous enthusiasm of a boy on an adventure, give him the chance to talk about it. Boys need to share their stories. Use scavenger hunts, dramas, or movie clips to reveal adventures in the Bible. Let boys work together in groups, but provide guidance so they know their boundaries. Boys enjoy challenges, so stretch them with opportunities. Take preteen boys backpacking in the wilderness or to rock-climbing gyms.
Boys want to be loved. In his book Real Boys, William Pollack, Ph.D., says, "The fact is that boys experience deep subliminal yearnings for connection -- a hidden yearning for relationship -- that makes them long to be close to parents, teachers, coaches, friends, and family. Boys are full of love and empathy for others and long to stay 'attached' to their parents and closest mentors."
Boys need people they can trust and depend on. Boys desire relationships with adult role models who can show them the ropes and who can speak openly with them about their triumphs and concerns.
Connect with boys. Provide positive male role models for boys through trusted adults who can give boys guidance and validation. Most importantly, let boys know they can experience a radical, unconditional love through Christ. Your passion to follow Christ will speak volumes to the boys who you want to grow in loving relationships with God.
Why and How do I Disciple my Child
I know what some people are thinking. I know that I need to be discipling my child but I have no idea how. Below is a resource for you to use that lays out why parents need to be the primary discipler in their child's life as well as ways to make it happen.
Training your child to be a spiritual champion.
Training your child to be a spiritual champion.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
What we can learn from Nick's KCA
Did you watch Nickelodeon's 2008 Kids' Choice Awards last month? Who were you rooting for? What can we learn from kids' choices?
Nickelodeon reports that there were 90 million votes from kids. (Lesson? Kids want to voice their opinions! Kids want to be heard!)
In all 18 categories, the winners are...(which by the way, take a look at the "candy sweet," positive selections--which fit generational insights that Millennials and Futuristics are a much more positive generation than GenX before them!)
And, one other thing before you read the list...Miley Cyrus thanked her "Lord and Savior Jesus Christ" when she accepted her blimp award. So cool!
MOVIES:
Favorite Movie
Alvin and the Chipmunks
Favorite Animated Movie
Ratatouille
Favorite Movie Actress
Jessica Alba
Favorite Movie Actor
Johnny Depp
Favorite Voice from an Animated Movie
Eddie Murphy (Shrek the Third)
MUSIC:
Favorite Music Group
The Jonas Brothers
Favorite Female Singer
Miley Cyrus
Favorite Male Singer
Chris Brown
Favorite Song
Girlfriend (Avril Lavigne)
TELEVISION:
Favorite Reality TV Show
American Idol
Favorite TV Show
Drake & Josh
Favorite TV Actress
Miley Cyrus (Hannah Montana)
Favorite TV Actor
Drake Bell (Drake & Josh)
Favorite Cartoon
Avatar: The Last Airbender
WANNABE AWARD:
Cameron Diaz
SPORTS:
Favorite Male Athlete
Tony Hawk
Favorite Female Athlete
Danica Patrick
OTHER CATEGORIES:
Favorite Video Game
Madden NFL '08
Favorite Book
Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling
Nickelodeon reports that there were 90 million votes from kids. (Lesson? Kids want to voice their opinions! Kids want to be heard!)
In all 18 categories, the winners are...(which by the way, take a look at the "candy sweet," positive selections--which fit generational insights that Millennials and Futuristics are a much more positive generation than GenX before them!)
And, one other thing before you read the list...Miley Cyrus thanked her "Lord and Savior Jesus Christ" when she accepted her blimp award. So cool!
MOVIES:
Favorite Movie
Alvin and the Chipmunks
Favorite Animated Movie
Ratatouille
Favorite Movie Actress
Jessica Alba
Favorite Movie Actor
Johnny Depp
Favorite Voice from an Animated Movie
Eddie Murphy (Shrek the Third)
MUSIC:
Favorite Music Group
The Jonas Brothers
Favorite Female Singer
Miley Cyrus
Favorite Male Singer
Chris Brown
Favorite Song
Girlfriend (Avril Lavigne)
TELEVISION:
Favorite Reality TV Show
American Idol
Favorite TV Show
Drake & Josh
Favorite TV Actress
Miley Cyrus (Hannah Montana)
Favorite TV Actor
Drake Bell (Drake & Josh)
Favorite Cartoon
Avatar: The Last Airbender
WANNABE AWARD:
Cameron Diaz
SPORTS:
Favorite Male Athlete
Tony Hawk
Favorite Female Athlete
Danica Patrick
OTHER CATEGORIES:
Favorite Video Game
Madden NFL '08
Favorite Book
Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling
Monday, April 21, 2008
Family Devotions for Smarties
I would call this "Family Devotions for Dummies" but I don't want to offend anyone especially the "confession police." I find that most parents believe that they should have a time for family devotions and yet a surprising number of parents never do.Here are the common excuses that people give for not having family devotions followed by my responses.
I don't have enough time.Throw away your TV set and you will have lots of time.
I'm not a preacher and I don't know how to lead devotions.If you can read the Bible out loud and ask questions you can lead devotions. It's really, really easy.
My kids don't understand the Bible.If you are reading from the King James Bible this is probably true. I suggest using the NLV or NIV translation.
I don't have time to do my personal devotions and lead a time of family devotions.Then just do the family devotions. You will get fed as you lead and your kids won't be starving spiritually.
OK, I'm convinced, how do I lead family devotions?I'm glad you asked. Here's what you do.
Buy an NLV or NIV Bible for every member of your family. (Everybody has to have the same translation for this to work.)
Pick a book of the Bible to read that has a lot of stories (like one of the gospels).
Have all members of your family sit in a circle in living room or at the kitchen table.
Everyone takes turns reading two verses at a time. This way your kids won't be able to let their minds wander into "video game land".
Read one chapter per day. Ask questions. What did you get out of this today? If nobody "gets" anything, read it again. Next time they will "get something".
Have an awesome time leading your family devotions,
I don't have enough time.Throw away your TV set and you will have lots of time.
I'm not a preacher and I don't know how to lead devotions.If you can read the Bible out loud and ask questions you can lead devotions. It's really, really easy.
My kids don't understand the Bible.If you are reading from the King James Bible this is probably true. I suggest using the NLV or NIV translation.
I don't have time to do my personal devotions and lead a time of family devotions.Then just do the family devotions. You will get fed as you lead and your kids won't be starving spiritually.
OK, I'm convinced, how do I lead family devotions?I'm glad you asked. Here's what you do.
Buy an NLV or NIV Bible for every member of your family. (Everybody has to have the same translation for this to work.)
Pick a book of the Bible to read that has a lot of stories (like one of the gospels).
Have all members of your family sit in a circle in living room or at the kitchen table.
Everyone takes turns reading two verses at a time. This way your kids won't be able to let their minds wander into "video game land".
Read one chapter per day. Ask questions. What did you get out of this today? If nobody "gets" anything, read it again. Next time they will "get something".
Have an awesome time leading your family devotions,
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